emancipate yourself from mental slavery!
Have you ever caught yourself thinking that its hard for you to do something because of your sex??have you ever felt inferior and painfully self-conscious because of an imperfect hairstyle or outfit?have you ever felt awkward and inappropriate in the presence of men?have you ever considered circumcising your daughter?have you ever considered undergoing genital plastic surgery to be of great pleasure to your partner?have you ever declined a great job offer just because its inappropriate for a female?
These are questions which i think should be answered by all of us..truthfully because one of the steel-strong cuffs bound tightly are the ones around our own minds...the ones we put for ourselves.
A puzzling story for me was the one told by my own cousin when i went to sudan for vacation last summer.She said that she had a big disagreement with her husband and had to threaten him by leaving the house when he refused the genital mutilation for his 6-year-old daughter.
"He doesnt mind the social stigmata which will mark her life ,and he doesnt care that she might never get married ..he is a man..he cant understand!" she stormed.
Her mother-my aunt- supported her fully and likewise her mother-in-law ,the women of the family! it is strange how they insist up to this day to circumcise young girls of the family while they themselves suffer daily from the complications of such brutality.Its a vicious circle where rediculing or reducing women into sex objects have led them into thinking that their sole existence depends on thier role as ones!especially when they are financially-dependant on the " bread- winner" man.Therefore,the circle continues when women become totally taken by this idea believing that their life wont be the same without men desiring them which in turn depends on their mutilated external genitalia reflecting their honor! this is automatically extended to their daughters and grand- daughters when the mother becomes the one holding the razor instead of the protector!
Likewise, married women who choose not to perform the popular traditional ways of beautyfying themselves are criticised and judged sharply because it is widely beleived that henna and "dukhan" -traditional smoke sauna- are ways to express gratitiude to a husband and to reflect that she is happily married to her in-laws and the society.It is supposed to be a must-do procedure for married women...and a stamp which she cant dismiss,more or less like the indian red mark on the forehead!....who insists on this??the mother and women of the family besides the judgemental female-critics of the society.
These beliefs are so deeply rooted in our society and are performed and carried on from one generation to the other like a heavy weight breaking our backs and brains in the process....isnt it sad to continue the long ancient march of oppression to our kind?and isnt it extremely puzzling how we insist to feed our own beloved daughters the same poisoned dishes we were fed?
THIS IS MENTAL SLAVERY,MY FRIENDS!!
To emancipate our own minds from mental slavery first should be a goal before embarking on wars impossible to be won without conquering our own fears and winning our own inner wars first!!
Let us all be truthfull regarding our innermost demons against women liberation and our weapons against our kind....especially those from the 3rd world where women are mostly the victims of a global financial crisis and a local prejudice and discrimination.without liberating our minds first...we can never win the fight!