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Yes, I am... ME

Women of the world, never let a bad marriage define your lives. You see, this is why I don't like talking about myself. Sometimes people get the idea that I am a tag, which I am NOT. My circumstances have never defined me. Yes, I have had a bad marriage, but I am a lot more than one failure. I have my kids that I love so much. My second marriage is now 14 years long. I have a beautiful, steady family, which of course has had some bad times, but nothing can be so perfect. My sons call my husband daddy, and call him on father's day and any day really. They are not kids anymore, they are professionals and live on their own.

My mistakes make me more human, more tolerant, more open minded. They have taught me that violence is UNACCEPTABLE, that women are the ones to show the way to have happy journeys as a family, and that men do to you WHAT YOU LET THEM.

So, instead of focusing in one moment of my past, please see the beautiful present that I live now. You are welcome to follow me in my quest for non violent behaviors in every home and every country.

No. I do not feel remorse or regret. I am not defined by the things that happened in the past. I am proud to live my present time at full, in fact, I love BEING ME.

Comments

It is so true that woman who have had a bad marriage should not be viewed as that since it can imply things like 'failure' or other nonsense stuff. Don't worry, those of us on here see the vibrant and beautiful woman you are now and love you!

Maria

Jennifer Ruwart's picture

I see you

Jackie,

I see you. And you are beautiful!

I am wondering if this post is in response to Dando's title of her bio on you? If it is, maybe you can suggest to her that she change it? Jade also mentioned it to her and she responded that she has a hard time with titles. This is such a learning process for all of us. My personal opinion - and it is just that, my opinion - is that Dando did not mean to do you any harm in her title. I definitely don't think she meant to "tag" you, although I can see why it would feel that way.

My two cents. Take 'em or leave 'em. Most importantly, please know that we do see YOU.

Love,
Jennifer

Jennifer Ruwart
Chief Collaborator
JR Collaborations

jap21's picture

Good point Jennifer

I will take your two cents and buy a castle ... hahahahaha. Just kidding.

Ok Jenny, you are right in everything. I will write to her. But I don't know if it is possible to edit the post. Let us try anyway.

Cheers

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

Dando's picture

Hi Jennifer

Thanks for your suggestion, If Jackie wants me to write another Bio on her, I will be very greatful. I really had no bad intentions and I didn't even realize she would perceive it in a different way, otherwise I love Jackie, she is among the many women that motives and inspires me on pulswire. During the interview I really learnt a lot from her.

I say; sorry, sorry Jackie!

with love
Dando

Jennifer Ruwart's picture

Your bio is wonderful!

Dearest Dando,

Your bio is wonderful. The suggestion was only about the title, which you even mention isn't your favorite to come up with. I think we all struggle with titles, so you are not alone.

How about trying a title that speaks to where she is NOW rather where she was YESTERDAY. She motivates and inspires you. That could be part of a title. I just had a great idea! Let's ask our expert, Cristi, for tips about creating titles.

Love,
Jennifer

Jennifer Ruwart
Chief Collaborator
JR Collaborations

jap21's picture

Dearest Dando!

You know, like everything in life, when you don't want to do something, many times you end up doing exactly what you didn't want over and over again. I didn't really want to talk about me. And I ended up talking way too much! I also ended up having another friend, Halima, write a bio of me because she was very worried that she was not getting in touch with Kenya, to her pair, due to technical difficulties. So you see my grandma was right, she used to say that you should never avoid anything in life, as it may touch you again and again until you accept it.

For soooo many years (like 20 more or less) I had not told people about me... at all. And now everyone knows about me, and more than I ever imagined hahahahaha.

Don't worry baby, just change the title if you wish, or make any changes that you want, go ahead dear Dando. I am not mad at you or to anyone. I am just here to help. That is what I am really trying to do. So, if I can be of any help to you to make you feel better about this, tell me please.

Love,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

LauraB's picture

Beautiful Present

I have witnessed a learning experience between Dando and Jackie as I read through Jackie's post and the following comments. In turn, I flipped to Dando's interview of Jackie and heard both or your stories. What could have been an unfortunate misunderstanding has turned into a learning experience with both voices- Dando's and Jackie's being heard in a fuller way. Along the way Jade made a helpful comment, Jennifer pointed out where both might be coming from, I read all this and the dialogue felt alive and thriving.

Jackie- I have experienced you as a bright and vibrant woman with an amazing wealth of heart, intelligence, and wisdom and am so happy to have the chance to get to know you. Dando, well done on the interview- will you go ahead and change the title?

Best to all you beautiful women!

Laura

jap21's picture

Hi Laura

This is indeed a learning experience, and as such it will be helpful for us all because it shows us that many things can be worked out so that interviewing should become a wonderful experience for both parts, especially because it takes some time and effort to convey two voices from different backgrounds and get a final result that is awesome to both of them.

Thanks for commenting and being interested. We love to have you around.

Hugs,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

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