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I need help: my husband is jealous ... of the internet

Surprisingly enough, he had been happy for me when I got the call to be a correspondent. He was always telling me how happy he was for me. Until he exploded: 'You don't pay any attention to me anymore! I will destroy your computer! I am the first husband to be beaten by a computer! This instrument of malicious separation from my wife! All these were more or less his words.

No, it is not just any freak, it is indeed, MY HUSBAND.

I smiled at him, I hugged him, I said sweet words, and he calmed down.

What can I say? What do I do?

What do you think?

Help me. Please.

Comments

katea's picture

awwww

Jackie,
I just wanna say, your husband is really sweet. It sooooooooo cute!!! But please, tell him don't destroy your computer! hahaha. Well, I guess, you really should have time with him alone too so he won't feel jealous. Spend quality time with him regularly. I can imagine how it feels like, even if I can only relate to it on the level of girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. When I'm with my boyfriend, he is not allowed to use his mobile phone! :) Just talk to your husband and assure him all the time that you love him more.

hugs,
katea

Poverty is man-made that we can undo.

jap21's picture

Yes!

I must not forget that he indeed is being sweet. Thanks for reminding me.

Love,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

Lili Miller's picture

Moderation

I have had the same problem, Jackie when photo editing on my computer. I can spend hours at a time working on my images and sometimes I get the sense that my husband is feeling ignored. So, I just set it down and wait for a time when he's busy doing something else or when he is at work (which is practically all the time). So maybe just work using a little moderation. At first, I was thinking that being a correspondent probably shouldn't require more than an hour a day - but then I read the VOF program description and see that there are many layers to this exciting opportunity. Good luck with finding the balance :-) It's not such a bad thing that your husband seeks your attention and affection :-) Open communication is the key!

Lili Miller

jap21's picture

You are right

Thanks Lili,

I did this today. It kind of worked. Let's see what happens later... hahahaha

I appreciate your comment very much!

Warm regards,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

Fatima Waziri's picture

Simple! tell him to join

Simple! tell him to join pulse wire!

Peace!
Fatima

jap21's picture

Well, there is a problem...

Dear Fatima,

There is a small problem, as he does not speak English ... at all!

But he browses sometimes. He just doesn't understand anything, so he leaves.

But thanks for the comment anyway. It is much appreciated, my dear friend.

Warm regards,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

Auma's picture

No English is No Problem!

Hi Jackie!

I know how "jealous" spouses sometimes become even with non living things for need of more attention!

If your husband does no know English that should not be a barrier from joining PulseWire! We have a translate page bar at the top of the right hand corner and he can PulseWire in one of the languages that he's most comfortable in.Ohhh...i'd love to see him here and read his posts,he sounds like a great guy!

All the best,

Leah.

jap21's picture

Thank you Leah

I'll tell him about this. I hope he will begin posting soon. Let's hope.

Best,

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

LauraB's picture

The passions we develop

Your husband is a lucky man...sharing what is precious is never easy. So important to make sure our most intimate circle knows they are loved with attention, time, and heart. I have no doubt that you are a master at that. I like the idea of him joining PulseWire- he could ignite the men of Bolivia to join in on this spirited ride.

jap21's picture

I tried to talk him into writing

Looks like he needs more time. This is very new to him. He said 'no way'. We shall see. He might be in need of more time.

Thank you!

Jackie

Jacqueline Patiño FundActiva
Tarija - Bolivia
South America
www.jap21.wordpress.com

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