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Being Shy

I've lurked around PulseWire for a couple of weeks now, even forgetting to log in when I do so. My mom and sisters always encourage me to post here, and to answer to other posts as well. But I'm always afraid of how I might sound to others. That I might sound like I have no idea what I'm talking about, or I sound naive, things like that. Self-confidence is one of the most major issues I have.

Confidence in oneself always sounds easy, but it is hard for me and others I know to stand up for her or himself. It's a big roadblock to stepping forward and doing your part to help change and fix the world. It's also the main reason I don't post or comment much, I'm just too afraid. But do I continue to let the self-confidence issue weigh me down? I really can't. Especially with how most people act in this world, having confidence in oneself can seem like a really huge obstacle. Where currently it feels like everyone expects you to act in a certain way, and if you don't, it means trouble.

That's something I hope to change, somehow...even if all I'm able to offer are words. Words can be very powerful, and along with the voices of other strong people, this world can see change!


sunita.basnet's picture

Something for you Fairy

Dear Fairy Red,
Thanks for your post. Let me introduced myself first. I am sunita Basnet from Nepal but currently is in Bangladesh. As you know, World pulse is a wonderful network to raise the silent voice. There is nothing to be scared and shy. We are friends and holding our hands together to raise our silent voice. We are shy so sometimes we are treated as second class citizen. Sometimes we are ignored too.
Please, Please I highly recommand you to start connecting with friends and share your thought. I believe it will slowly decrease your shy. Hence you can build your confidence.
Start from today so that you can remove it on time otherwise it might be a barrier of our development.
Love you

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

You are passionate about many subjects and should write about more of them on here. The first ones you did were great and I know you have so much else to say. What is beautiful about this place is that you do not have to worry about first making someone else stop talking for you to be heard. Each of us can post our own thoughts and each is valued and the other woman read them when they have the time.

Building self-confidence is important to all woman and children (well, and of course men, too, I guess) and each baby step makes the next easier to take.



Sunny_sunshine_cloudy_Mina's picture


Your cool for talking about it. You really are shy but that stops you from being who you really are... think you are so wonderful, really!

"Fight fire with fire, you'll end up with ashes."
"A charming lady does not follow the crowd, she is herself."

Rae's picture

Thoughts about SHY

Red Fairy,

Thank you for sharing your voice. I think the word "shy" is a curious word. I teach theatre classes to kids who I often only spend a few hours with. They are basically strangers to me, so I don't know what labels they claim for themselves. Every once in awhile I will ask a child to do something and another kid will say.....AH! She's SHY! I reply. Oh, people get to play my games even when they feel shy.... or ..maybe she doesn't feel shy today. Maybe she feels brave today.

You see, from my perspective SHY is a feeling more than a label or a way of being. If we were to apply other feelings the way some people apply shy, I might say this of you....beings how I am just meeting you.... "Red Fairy is being BRAVE." Bam! A new, refreshing reality is born out of your action.

Maria de Chirikof's picture

Still feeling shy?

Hi there, I was just wondering when your next article will come out since I know there are many things you are passionate about!


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