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End of Life Planning

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End of Life Planning
My life has been filled with experiences that have taught me the importance of planning ahead and taking care of those we love in the event that we are unable to do so ourselves. One of the most critical of these issues is planning for the end of our lives.

I know this is one of the most difficult subjects I will ever discuss with you, but it's so important. I hope you will allow yourself this opportunity to consider these necessary actions for the sake of your well-being and as well as that of your loved ones.

None of us knows exactly how or when we will die, but we all know it will happen...someday. I believe that we should try to approach death in the same manner that, hopefully, we approach life - intentionally and with an effort to do as much good and as little harm as possible. When it comes to exiting gracefully, it is best to plan for and embrace our eventual death as consciously as possible.

Here are some steps to take in thinking about how you would like to live the last days of your life:
1. Begin by writing out how you would want to live the last days of your life. Where would you like to be? Who would you like to be with you? What ceremonies or rituals would you like performed? What services or celebrations would you like held in honor of your life? (Personally, I want the party before I go and then a great roast at my funeral...which had better be good or I'll be back!)

2. Create an "End of Life" Journal and write out your thoughts and feelings about your life's journey. Inside, you might also write a letter to each of your loved ones. Express whatever you need them to know so that you can both be complete when you're gone.

3. Discuss your wishes in detail with your spouse, trusted friend, or family members. Ask for their support in allowing you to leave in the manner of your choosing.

4. Appoint someone who is emotionally willing and capable to be in charge of your personal, medical and financial affairs. Create a file with all of your insurance, legal and financial documents and review it in advance with your appointed agent. Make sure this person is fully capable of handling the responsibility of caring for your medical needs and financial affairs.

5. In order for your wishes to be carried out, it is important that you complete a living will and a state approved medical directive. Prepare these legal forms well in advance to avoid a crisis later. Without this, your family or appointed agent will not have the legal right to make decisions on your behalf.

6. Share your desire to have your loved ones fully support your wishes and not interfere with your medical directives, even if they disagree.

7. Discuss what you'd like to have happen as your illness progresses. Ask your loved ones and family to be your advocate if you cannot communicate for yourself.

8. Discuss your end-of-life wishes with your doctor and healthcare providers in detail. Have them explain your end-of-life choices and options thoroughly. Make sure you discuss your pain management options with them and give them a copy of your medical directive. Physicians are not required to follow directives if they disagree with your wishes, so it's best to have a candid discussion with them and ask them if they plan to honor your directives.

9. You may want or need to look into hospice options in your area. Hospice workers are highly trained, end-of-life caregivers who are truly a gift to the dying and their loved ones during their final days.

10. You may want to request a loving prayer vigil to surround you in love and light during your transition. Death, like life, is a spiritual journey. Although we must all someday leave this earth, we must always remember that we wherever we go, we go with God. Know that as we leave this place and our human body, we are simply returning to His loving arms and embracing His Greater Plan for our spiritual unfolding.

Here's a poem:

Love's Journey

From the womb I came
Tied to this umbilical cord called love;
The source of life that nourishes
And sustains us on this human journey.

On my darkest nights,
When lost I became,
Love's light would find me,
Her hand gently guide me,
Like a wick to the flame.

When my heart was filled with pain and regret,
Love came clothed in forgiveness.
Showed me the mercy in surrender
And healed my brokenness.

I came here with nothing,
Yet I leave with everything.
No lesson more lasting than this simple truth;
Life is not about living; it is about loving.

So when I'm gone and all that's left of me is love,
Give it away!
So that the seed that began as my love for you
Continues to blossom throughout time,
through me to you and onto the next,
like seeds in the wind.

And in this way, I shall live forever.

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Nusrat Ara's picture

How do I join your group

How do I join your group dear. And what happened to that intuition group.

Love
Nusrat

Nusrat

marietta64's picture

hi

we will see - i can teach you in developing intuition and telepathy,i have learning materials or you can be my student if you want

Nusrat Ara's picture

I saw ur reply today. U

I saw ur reply today. U should have replied to my post instaed of creating another post that way I would have seen it. So when do we begin. And r u sending me the learning material.

Nusrat

marietta64's picture

hi

anyway we shall be clear is this service is for the idea or it is paid and then i will make a plan.
This is business for me and we have to decide what to do regarding the above...

Nusrat Ara's picture

I had an idea that you are

I had an idea that you are starting a group in Pulswire for that. And carry on like other groups.

Nusrat

marietta64's picture

hi

yes,but these groups are sponssored like NGOs - mine is not and the only way to do the work as NGO is to be sponsored in other way - i have send it to sharing problems as well...What do you think

Nusrat Ara's picture

i think u r wrong the groups

i think u r wrong the groups in Pulswire r not sponsored. anyways it is ur right to decide how u want to do things.

Nusrat

marietta64's picture

hi

OK - i will think about it and by the way you can pass the material,that is free in http://mysticknight.org/knights.php - because that is the base and without it you will not be prepared for real training - we can make together the final ritual here...

marietta64's picture

hi

did you pass some of the free material?

Nusrat Ara's picture

ddint have time and dont know

ddint have time and dont know whom to pass. i suggest u opne a gropu and then post the materail

Nusrat

bennettml's picture

Beautiful poem.

Beautiful poem.

MLB

Kizzie's picture

This is such a

This is such a thought-provoking idea! I've never thought about it. As much as we expect death, we also avoid thinking about it! We avoid seeing it as reality. I think that it is better to avoid thinking about it because there is so much life planning to do. We have to think of plan A.B.C etc..

I like your idea though! I will think about what I want to do in my last days and who I want to be with.

Kizzie

Starland's picture

hummm

Interesting post. Thank you.

What if...1. All we think is real is only our individual dreams - an illusion? 2. There is no death only transition out of the physical into an original state. 3. We come into this earthly dreamstate many times over and over?
Yeah, but it seem so real...

I have a friend who died 4 times. Each time he was sent "back." There are books and movies about his experiences. His name is Dannion Brinkley. He has a website if anyone is interested in checking it out.

Well, just a thought. At any rate, I figure we might just as well have a good time. Why not?

love
K-lee 3709

K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

marietta64's picture

hi

thanks - it is from another point of view,but if you find it interesting - may be it is,ir at least different.
It is not bad to have the site of this guy...

Starland's picture

Yeah, just a thought

Actually this is a postulate from some from theoritical physics that says this world is a world of forms and our brain tells us what to do and how to act in this world of forms that are only energy. Very mental. Doesn't deal with the emotional aspect which, I think, is most important.

K-lee Starland, Ph.D.

marietta64's picture

hi

For sure.In fact this exercise is expeience near death i think - but it is too philosofical to be recieved by most of us...

I have often thought that if i had some experience of having been alive before it would be some comfort as the thought of death would not be so full of fear. I know there are people who can use hypnosis to "regress" subjects into past lives but this is not always successful, and the subject does not necessarily remember much of what happens afterwards. There is also a school of thought that hypnosis can cause psychological problems so i am reluctant to try it. If i could awake from a vivid dream with a name or some piece of information in mind that would enable me to investigate the dream and discover an identity that may have been mine in the past, this would be nice. But dreams are so abstact and can be so random that such a thing has not occurred.

At the weekend, when i have time to rest properly, i have vivid dreams - this morning i awoke and remembered such a dream. The day before i had been in town and seen a large picture of Princess Diana, and in my dream we were together but i was consoling her for having died in such a terrible way. This was simply my subconcious creating a scene based on a single fleeting thought from the previous day, and illustrates how each night we sleep we re-process all of the days thoughts, to file them away and make room for concious thought the next day. It would be nice to think that dreamland could be another place, but usually it just seems like my mind restoring and regenerating itself for the next day, consolidating new experience.

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