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Torture for not giving birth to a child

Rural Nepali women are ignored and treated like an animal. They rarely raise their voice. Sometimes, when women tried to raise their voices, their voices are treated as silence voice. Yet the stories of women remain unheard. In Nepal, women are still victims of such accused.

In rural Nepal, Women are subject to discriminated and abuse after the marriage, if they are unable to give birth to a child. When family member extremely torture, and they are in the position of life and death then only they will take help of attorney. Torture for not giving birth to a child has been reported in recent media also. It is concluded that such abused are on the rise even though most cases go unreported.

Yesterday, while I was surfing the internet I found a news titled “Torture for not giving birth to a child” by Anjan Dhakal in a website USNEPALINEWS which was published in Nepali. Rama Kumal, who lived in Chisapani, Makar-1, Nawalparasi, was tortured her mother-in-law, Bali Kumal, because she was unable to give birth to a child after her two years married. Bali threw hot tea in the face of Rama’s that has burned.

Two years ago, Rama fell in love and married with an army, Bal Bahadur Kumal. Their neighbors said that when Rama’s husband came to home, he listened to his mother not his wife. She was tortured everyday from her mother-in-law. She told this to reporter when she came to do treatment in family planning Association of Nepal and case the file. She then tried getting legal process through her parents, when her mother in law started tortured extremely.

Local organizations suggest Rama for calling her husband and having a talk. Rama’s case has challenged to those organizations who are working to reduce domestic violence.

For more details of this news please visit the website http://www.usnepalinews.com/2009/04/blog-post_688.html.

Ref. USNEPALINEWS, http://www.usnepalinews.com/2009/04/blog-post_688.html (accessed on May 14, 2009)

Comments

JaniceW's picture

I'm speechless

I am so saddened and dismayed at the continual abuse — physical, emotional and verbal — from woman to woman. In many cultures, young brides are subjected to abuse and harassment at the hands of their mothers-in-law, women who themselves were at one point treated poorly and as second-class citizens. At what point do they lose that sense of shared identity and empathy? Why do we, as women, feel a need to prove ourselves superior to other women, by subjugation, sabotage, abuse and bullying? Is it that because we have been so conditioned to compete in a male-dominated world, that we feel the need to build ourselves up by tearing another down?

It is bad enough for the husband to condone this behaviour but for me, worse that the mother-in-law acted in such a violent way towards another woman, someone whose situation is only separated by the inability to produce a child. We need to realize that only in solidarity can we change attitudes, open doors and improve our collective situations... not by abusing the ones who share a common ideal and are the more likely to stand shoulder-to-shoulder with you.

sunita.basnet's picture

violation of women's right

Dearest Janice,
Once again you are encouraging me to raise my voice against discrimination. Your comments have a power to inspire me, and I admired it.

Yes, I was also speechless to hear the miserable condition of our sisters. You are right Janice, her husband is worst than her mother-in-law action. She fell in love and marries with him to start a new life. But she was treated only as a child bearing machine. Why we women are treated as second class citizen because we are silence and dependent. We are also a human being but why we are treated as animals?

You know Janice, sometimes I feel like I will not marry because all these news made me cry. I also think is that I am scared of male dominated society and thinking this. May be my husband will understand me and try to convince myself, if not then I have my voice to rise.

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

Dando's picture

what a sad story

I feel for that woman, sometimes i wonder why we women are always to blame.

Any new development concerning the same woman.

Love dando.

sunita.basnet's picture

Yeap

Dear Dando,
Thank you so much for your friend request. It’s my pleasure to introduce with you. How do you do? I have setup Skype account and add you. Hope to have a conversation in the future. I am really excited in this program. At present, I am quite busy with my presentation and final exam preparation.

Me too. I wonder why most of the time we women have to suffer? Is it our fault because we born as a daughter rather than son?
This is an article from Nepal but currently, I am in Bangladesh. If I get any information about her I will share with our community. Can you please give me your suggestion?
What is the situation of women in your country? If you had this problem in your coutry what would you do? How would you help to diminish the violation against women.

See u sometimes in Skype.
Hugs

With Love and Regards
Sunita Basnet

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